Good for Kanye on the Jay Leno show.  Like I thought, Kanye is dealing with his emotions, has some unresolved things and wasn’t aware in the moment how his actions were affecting someone else.

Kanye explains the award show was not going how he expected it to.  He took action in the moment to make reality match his expectations.  Folks who attempt to “correct” reality with relationships and situations are setting themselves up for a lifetime of hurt.

Losing Control

There are people out there who like to be in charge.  When they find themselves in a situation where they are not in control, they can feel all sorts of things; angry, confused, trapped, ashamed…and lash out as they attempt to gain control.

Boundaries

I draw the line when people attempt to control me.   Boundaries are about drawing lines in the “sand” to establish what you feel comfortable with.  I’ve found that I don’t need to spell my boundaries out to everyone but I have needed to sit down with several folks and lay out “the rules” which include:

• Don’t call me after 8pm CST (friends and clients)
• I am not the Geeksquad so don’t think of me as your emergency IT support
• Clients need to pay promptly
• Don’t abuse my helpful nature
• Don’t think I’m attracted to you just because I’m helpful
• Don’t call me to dump on me about how bad your day was
• Don’t BS me about stuff you never plan to do
• Don’t project your shortcomings onto me

Past those big things, I’m pretty easy going.  I’ve learned in the last few years that people really do treat you the way you allow them.  I thought long and hard about what affects my energy levels, what are my pet peeves and what sort of company I really enjoy.

Judging Others

On Twitter, people were saying all sorts of things about Kanye.  Most importanly, they were judging him.  Since I don’t own a TV, I didn’t actually see the VMA awards but did catch a clip on YouTube within a few hours.  What I saw was a set of actions based on a set of feelings which I couldn’t see.

Kanye Moving Forward

Now that I’ve watched the Jay Leno clip, I feel Kanye is aware his actions were not appropriate and he seems to regret what he did, wants to make amends and correct his impulsive behavior in the future.  Hats off Kanye!